Smiling more? Feeling less tense? You have the potential to shape a new reality as you discover your true self. You must tune in to the incredibly unique and beautiful kaleidoscope of who you are and let it shine. Experiment a bit, especially around your closest friends and family. Man with hands in air image via Shutterstock. Paresh Shah is an experienced entrepreneur, executive, yogi, life coach, and dad of four kids. This site is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal, or other professional advice.
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Because, you see, the two are interconnected and the reality. Does that make sense? What do people expect of you? Try this exercise to get a bit clearer about expectations and what you can do about them. Think of one significant person or group in your life 2. On a blank piece of paper, write down who they are in the middle of the page 3.
It might be your mother or son, your church group, sports club, maybe a colleague at work, your manager or an employee in your business 4. Now, using the page space, jot down some words that describe what you believe are their expectations of you. When I say relevant, I mean how important are they? If you have identified some of the words as unfair or unrealistic etc, what can you do about this? If you occasionally insist on perfection, but it causes you excess stress, pay attention to these situations.
I suggest journaling about them to find the common link. The awareness alone will help you get to the core and figure out what it's really all about. Observe how others accept themselves, flaws and all, and assign yourself a few virtual mentors to follow. Learning how successful people built upon their failures, instead of hiding from them, will help get things into perspective. Hewitt and Flett say that perfectionism is a risk factor for psychological disorders--not a disorder itself.
If it leads to depression, anxiety, or other exhausting mental states, therapy can help. Yes, you can develop a healthy mindset and make life much easier and more rewarding for yourself. Top Stories. Top Videos. Getty Images. Can you overcome the seemingly never-ending pursuit of perfection? Sponsored Business Content. Maybe when you were also very young, when you had little experience in the task, or when you were having a bad day. If you can take something the wrong way, you do.
Before getting angry with someone, consider what you know about this person. Has she generally had your back and shown care towards you? If this person usually is good to you, then this mistake may be just that: a mistake. Most people think you overreact and judge too harshly.
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